Intimate massage: How to perform it so your partner never forgets you

Preparation before Going Hands-On

Now, let me tell you, there is a world of difference between a regular massage you'd get at your local spa and an intimate one you'd share with your partner. See, an intimate massage is not just about kneading and pressing the right muscles – it’s about creating a sensual experience that both partners can enjoy. It’s about taking your time, feeling the rhythm, connecting with your partner at a level not possible during other times. Strap in folks, because we’re gonna take a dip into the ocean of intimacy. Buckle up your mental seat belts, because this is going to be an exciting ride!

First things first, a tidy environment equals a peaceful mind. Seek the Montessori within you and prepare the area. Soft lighting, calming music, comfortable temperature – they all contribute to creating the perfect, relaxing mood. Let's not forget a clean set of sheets – you want your partner free of thoughts of laundry. Believe me, a clean, fragrant bedroom is the right kind of aphrodisiac you need.

You see, the sense of smell is a potent tool in creating a sensual atmosphere. Use your favourite scented oils – something that will not just help smoothen hands glide over skin but stimulate the sense of smell too. Now this can be a little tricky, you need to be mindful of your partner's preferences. If it's wrong, the smell can end up making the experience terrible. Believe me, your partner wouldn't forget you, but not in the way you'd ideally want.

Pick the Right Massage Oil

Now that the room is set, we need to think about the tools we're going to work with. Imagine a carpenter approaching a job without his favourite hammer, or my golden retriever Max trying to fetch without his favourite Frisbee, the result would simply not be the best. So, we need to choose the right oil for the massage. The choice of oil is essential not only for a smooth glide but also for engaging the sense of smell in the process.

When choosing the oil, consider the scent, texture, and the effect it has on the skin. Being an Aussie, I personally love the native oils - sandalwood, tea tree or eucalyptus oil. But, not everyone digs it, thoug. So it’s always best to ask your partner about their preference. You might even consider using a blend of essential oils. If you're less familiar with it, don't worry, just a quick chat with a friendly staff at the local health store can do wonders. You might want to test a little before diving head-first, or should I say, hands-first!

Remember, oils like coconut, jojoba, or almond have excellent glide and absorption, and are also great for your skin. But here's a little tip - heat it slightly before use. Just a gentle warmth is enough, don't go cooking your partner with hot oil.

Permission and Communication is Key

One can't stress enough on the importance of clear communication and consent lines when it comes to intimate activities like these. This is something I've personally experienced. You have to recognize and respect the boundaries, folks! We're not trying to build ourselves a Tower of Babel incident here! It’s essential to communicate at length about the areas you intend to massage, the type of oil you want to use, the pressure levels, and most importantly, their comfort levels.

Taking time to discuss these might seem a tad clinical at the beginning, I must agree. But trust me, it unveils a level of openness and adaptability that is both surprising and essential for a sensual act. You might find your partner being more responsive when they know exactly what to expect, and that can do wonders to the entire experience.

Also let's not forget, the idea isn’t to rush towards ‘the end’. So, the massage doesn’t need to be a one-direction highway leading to 'a certain result'. It can be a relaxed, winding country road where you stop to smell the roses! Believe me, savouring the process can make all the difference. Again, communication is the key here. Your partner could teach you a thing or two about their body you never knew!

Techniques of Massaging

As much as it's about the journey, we must also pay attention to the destination, our technique. It is not just about rubbing oil on your partner. This is where you could put all your stress-busting, and relaxing potential to work! The intimacy of this act is directly proportional to how comfortable you can make your partner feel. Performing a simple Swedish massage technique where you knead, glide, tap and shake can go a long way. Trust me, your partner will appreciate a bit of technique instead of just random gestures.

To make your strokes confident and continuous, always use the whole hand. I learnt it the hard way that using just fingers creates a poking sensation, see. And of course, remember that variety is the spice of life. Mix and match the techniques to provide a seamless experience. A tip you might find handy - start from broader regions and then move to specific points. Make it a crescendo, not a sudden jump.

But remember, different techniques work differently on certain body areas. Not every part of the body can be massaged in the same way. For specific regions, you might want to apply circular, elongated strokes, but for certain sensitive areas, soft pressure, slow movements with fingertips could work wonders. Again, attentive communication comes in handy here. Check in on your partner every once in a while and adjust your strokes accordingly.

Incorporating Sensual Play

Once you understand the importance of ambiance, consent, and technique, why not elevate the game with a bit of sensual play? See, performing an intimate massage is an excellent opportunity to explore your partner’s body and stimulate their senses in myriad ways. It's not a one-trick pony, fellas. Light touches with feathers, gentle breaths on the oiled skin, incorporating special tools like a massage brush or roller can raise the sensual experience to whole new heights.

Remember, this is not just about the physical stimulation rather about creating a comprehensive sensual experience. Massaging with a mental connection can lead to a romantic and intimate experience like no other. Sometimes, even use of blindfolds to intensify the feeling of touch can add some delightful spice to the mix. But speaking from a personal experience, always make sure to discuss before introducing any new element. We wouldn't want anyone to be caught off guard, right?!

Integrating elements of surprise at various stages is a fun extension to the act provided there's consent. A hot towel here, a cool gel there – alternating temperatures can create unimaginable tingles when least expected! And believe me, a nice surprise goes a long way in making the experience memorable.

After the Massage

The end of the massage does not mean the end of the intimate journey. There's more grace to the intimate tango. Do not just abruptly cease once you've finished massaging. Allow the experience to linger, to steep like a good tea, you see. Giving your partner some space to relax and enjoy the sensation can make all the difference. Let your partner bask in the afterglow, let them savour the journey you took them on.

Care for some pro tips? Post-massage, some warm cuddles and soft talks can provide a wholesome closure to the entire experience. I remember, one time, offering my partner a glass of warm tea after the massage, and seeing the smile on their face engraved the occurrence in my memory like a piece of fine art. It's all about making your partner feel cherished and loved. Fond memory association, that's the ticket!

See, intimate massage is all about building and nurturing a connection with your partner. It is an exercise in understanding, empathy, patience, and most importantly, love. When you put time, effort and thought into an activity to make your partner feel pampered, loved and cherished – they will surely never forget you!